I had a dilation procedure performed for almost every exam I had with intersex doctors from the time I was 8 until I was 16, so that they could check how long my vagina was as I grew. I absolutely hated these procedures. I mean, imagine a man as old as your father or your grandfather, who you don’t know, inserting a medical dildo into you each time you saw him, knowing that you can’t question the doctor’s orders and just accept that you have to undergo these uncomfortable procedures for your health. Imagine a decade or so later, realizing that these procedures did nothing to track your health, and had everything to do with grown men feeling good about the fact that you could fuck some dude someday like a “normal girl”. That all those traumatizing procedures weren’t actually medically relevant at all, and it actually was within my right to refuse those examinations.
I didn’t know any of that at the time.
I also had no idea that I wouldn’t want to ultimately have the kind of sex they assumed I’d be having, adding yet another layer of this-was-totally-unnecessary/messed-up to my history.
Other kids shouldn’t have to go through this. Other adults shouldn’t have revelations some day far into the future that what was happening to them WASN’T okay, and their traumatic feelings ARE valid, and the whole system of how intersex people are conceptualized and “treated” IS entirely fucked.
And it’s gotta change. We’ve gotta change it."
—-Claudia at Autostraddle
I just read this article and was reminded once again how invisible the intersex community often is… we need to signal boost this shit to let people know that this kind of “medical treatment” is NOT okay.
Intersex oppression is patriarchy, it is heterosexism, it is misogyny; it is simultaneously violent and invisible.
Photographer Marianne Kjølner snapped this pair of photographs of a bizarre tree in Denmark. Of the photo she says: “This old pink house is situated at the old dunes, a few hundred meters from the west coast, a very windy place were there isn’t much that can grow. So the tree can only grow where it has shelter.”
Vegan Cashew Cheese Pasta Round Up
Could you live on $8 or $9 dollars an hour? A computer game made by the Urban Ministries of Durham in North Carolina and an advertising firm called McKinney lets you play out life with a low-wage job as a single mom. The objective is to make it a month, juggling getting a job, rent, a place to live, food and coping with the costs of repairs, things for your child, insurance, etc.. Actually a very hard game to play and full of reminders of the difficulties of life on that kind of salary.
Seriously, if you haven’t played before, play it now. If you have played before, play it again. Especially important during this election season.
just playing this game alone made me really stressed and anxious
ALL THE HATER ANONS, PLAY THIS
This game is amazing. Play it, play it, play it! I shared this with a professor who then had her students play it. So real.
Treefrog tadpoles (Agalychnis). Native to forests in Mexico, Central America and northwestern South America.
What’s the biggest myth about street harassment? That men of color comprise the majority of offenders.
As a MtF transgender woman, it is very important for me to have this surgery. However I cannot pay for it. The cost of blood tests, hormones, and medical visits and college are all consuming all the money I make. If you could help this college student out, I would really appreciate it. This is the one of the final major steps that I need to complete my transition- if you could help, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.my cousin posted this on his facebook and she has only been donated $5 so I thought I should boost. please reblog, donate, or boost if you can. raising that money isn’t easy and she needs help!
Not cosplay related, but I think signal boosting here would be a good idea.
Tears Over Beers - Modern Baseball
I said, “All I can hope for is for you to get better,
'Cause all I can take is no more.
So I’ll hide where I can, away from you and your friends,
Leaking tears over beers once again.”
I’d love to hurt you
I’ve got you, Inside me
What do you care, if you want to
You should pay if you wanna go down
Don’t walk away
Don’t walk away, love
Don’t walk away
Just stay right here