I'm a cis-gendered pansexual woman who is in love with a cis-gendered bisexual man whose preference is men. He's in love with me too but I feel so un-feminist for being so in love with him and pinning all my hopes and dreams to him. He's crazy about me and would do anything for me and I love him more than anything but whenever I see a feminist post or quote about relying on men, I feel guilty for feeling so strongly for him.@Anonymous
I don’t want to invalidate your feelings because I can certainly see the situation and how it would present a challenge to how people perceive and understand intensely important pieces of your life but honestly, fuck ‘em. If anyone in any community, gay, straight, queer, feminist, or otherwise wants to make you feel like your relationship isn’t valid or worthwhile, then that is reflecting on their fears and not yours.
Not being afraid and loving who you do despite of the ignorance you might encounter for whatever reason is powerful.
I will say, though, love is one thing… your dreams and your hopes have to stay your own, in my opinion.